Object–Love:

Object–love or object–libido, in Freudian theory, is love directed to others or objects, in contrast with inwardly-directed narcissistic love. It’s an ego function — more than just instinctual — to outwardly direct emotional energy (libido) to form meaningful relationships. Freud distinguished between narcissistic object-choice (love of self or choosing someone like oneself) and object-choice (love of external objects). He also coined anaclitic object–choice (choosing to love someone like one’s parents). Object relations theory, developed by Melanie Klein building on Freud’s work, explores how early relationships with caregivers (especially the mother) shape our personality and adult relationships. Object–love can also involve aim–inhibited instincts (intensity of sexual desire lessens), where the focus shifts to tenderness and affection. In common usage, a love object can be the person you love or have romantic feelings for, or something that brings you joy. Also see Self–Love, Ego–Ideal, and Ego Libido