Boundary-Setting

Boundary-setting establishes limits in relationships to protect our physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing—by reducing stress and anxiety, asserting our own values and needs, and giving us a greater sense of control over our lives. We identify and communicate our personal needs to others and take action when those boundaries are crossed—to be in control if violated, not as a request but a demand. “If you continue to talk to me this way, I’ll leave or hang up” is a boundary, while simply asking someone to stop is a request. Boundaries define where we end and another begins, ensuring our needs and wants are respected. Boundaries help us balance our needs and the demands of others in our personal and professional lives. They also help to create healthier relationships, so both partners feel respected and don’t allow resentments to build up when needs are consistently ignored. Boundaries are:

• Physical: Protecting personal space and comfort with physical touch.
• Emotional: Guarding feelings and deciding what we’re comfortable sharing.
• Intellectual: Respecting our own thoughts and beliefs and expecting others to do the same.
• Material: Protecting our belongings and finances.
• Time: Protecting our schedule and ability to focus on our own priorities.
• Workplace: Defining our professional responsibilities and preventing interference